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What to Ask & what to say
From people who’ve been there, for people who need help.
What to Ask &
what to say
From people who’ve been there, for
people who need help.
You can use these messages to start a conversation around suicide, face to face, over the phone or as a Text Message.
You can use these messages to start a conversation
around suicide, face to face, over the phone or as a
Text Message.
What to Ask
I’ve noticed that you haven’t been yourself like [give a specific example of a time or place] do you want to talk about it?
What to Ask
Hey, I haven’t heard from you or seen you for a while, are you ok?
What to Ask
Hey mate, I noticed your last post on facebook and I am a bit worried about you. Do you want to have a chat?
What to Ask
I can see this is worrying for you, is it just so tough that you feel like giving up?
What to Ask
Are things so bad that you’ve thought about hurting yourself or ending your life?
What to Ask
Sometimes when people talk about the feelings/situations you’ve been describing, they’re thinking about suicide. Are you thinking this way?
What to Ask
The things that you’ve been saying make me wonder if you’re thinking about taking your own life.
What to Ask
Sometimes when things are really hard going emotionally, people think about ending it all. Has this crossed your mind?
What to Ask
This may seem out of the blue, but are you having thoughts about hurting yourself?
What to Ask
Do you wish you could just go to bed and not wake up in the morning?
What to Ask
When you are thinking about this, what thoughts are going through your head?
What to Ask
This must all be so hard, so crap. Can I come over? Can we talk?
What to Ask
On a scale from one to ten how are you feeling right now?
What to Ask
When did you first have thoughts like this? Have you felt this way before?
What to Ask
What kinds of thoughts have you been having?
What to Ask
Have things gotten so bad that you’ve thought about hurting yourself or ending your life?
What to Ask
This is really hard for you, but we can get through this, I am here for you. Let’s work through this together
What to Ask
It worries me to think of you feeling so bad about yourself. I wish I could help you feel better – I want to help you as much as I can
What to Say
I may not know how you feel, but I do want to help you get through this.
What to Say
I can’t imagine how painful this is for you, but I would like to try and understand.
What to Say
You don’t have to feel this way. I’m here for you.
What to Say
Just stop, have faith that we can get through this.
What to Say
When you want to give up, tell yourself you will hold off for just one more day, hour, minute—whatever you can handle
What to Say
You may not believe it now, but the way you’re feeling will change
What to Say
Treating suicidal thoughts is like having a medical problem. For example if you’ve got mild asthma symptoms, you’d just treat yourself. BUT if it’s a life threatening attack, you’d ask the experts for help. Then you can go back to to living your life once we’ve sorted the crisis.
What to Say
I care about you and I would be so devastated if you weren’t here anymore
What to Say
Depression and despair make your brain tell you wrong thoughts, like it will never get better, there is no way out. Believe me there is.
What to Say
People who get better say they can’t believe the thoughts they were having now that they are well
What to Say
With help, your brain will stop telling you all this negative horrible stuff. You won’t have these thoughts when you’re well. Hang in there.
What to Say
Your brain is telling you things no one else will understand, it is saying negative wrong stuff. This can be corrected.
What to Say
That’s what depression is, everything is negative! But please remember back when things were not this bad, when it all wasn’t so dark. It will get better again.
What to Say
I know you think no one has ever experienced this pain and that no one can help but you WILL get better.
What to Say
I won’t ever get over it, and neither will anyone else that you care for, if you take your own life.
What to Say
What you are thinking is wrong. People who get better say they can’t believe the thoughts they were having when they were unwell

Geting Help
Have you talked to anyone outside me about this? It would be really good if you could speak to your GP.
Geting Help
Lots of people get suicidal thoughts when at a really low point. It doesn’t mean you’ll act on it. We do need to get you some help
Geting Help
I understand if you don’t want to talk to me about this. I can find someone that you can talk to who will help you.
Getting Help
This feeling will only get worse if left untreated. Can we ask your GP or a mental health service? I can help if it is too hard?
Geting Help
Will you promise me that you won’t harm yourself or do anything like act on those awful thoughts? Please.
Getting Help
You can get through tonight, but if you feel you can’t, please let me know. I will call you.
Geting Help
This awful pain will stop. We need to talk so I can help you get help.
Getting Help
Doctors tell me this is something they can help fix . No matter how bad.
Getting Help
Mate, I’ll never get over you not being here. Please talk.
What to Ask
I’ve noticed that you haven’t been yourself like [give a specific example of a time or place] do you want to talk about it?
What to Ask
Hey, I haven’t heard from you or seen you for a while, are you ok?
What to Ask
Hey mate, I noticed your last post on facebook and I am a bit worried about you. Do you want to have a chat?
What to Ask
Things sound really tough for you at the moment. Have things got so bad that you just want to go to bed and not wake up?
What to Ask
I can see this is worrying for you, is it just so tough that you feel like giving up?
What to Ask
Are things so bad that you’ve thought about hurting yourself or ending your life?
What to Ask
This must all be so hard, so crap. Can I come over? Can we talk?
What to Ask
Sometimes when people talk about the feelings/situations you’ve been describing, they’re thinking about suicide. Are you thinking this way?
What to Ask
The things that you’ve been saying make me wonder if you’re thinking about taking your own life.
What to Ask
Sometimes when things are really hard going emotionally, people think about ending it all. Has this crossed your mind?
What to Ask
This may seem out of the blue, but are you having thoughts about hurting yourself?
What to Ask
Do you wish you could just go to bed and not wake up in the morning?
What to Ask
When you are thinking about this, what thoughts are going through your head?
What to Ask
On a scale from one to ten how are you feeling right now?
What to Ask
When did you first have thoughts like this? Have you felt this way before?
What to Ask
What kinds of thoughts have you been having?
What to Ask
Have things gotten so bad that you’ve thought about hurting yourself or ending your life?

What to Say
This is really hard for you, but we can get through this, I am here for you. Let’s work through this together
What to Say
It worries me to think of you feeling so bad about yourself. I wish I could help you feel better – I want to help you as much as I can
What to Say
I may not know how you feel, but I do want to help you get through this.
What to Say
I can’t imagine how painful this is for you, but I would like to try and understand.
What to Say
You don’t have to feel this way. I’m here for you.
What to Say
Just stop, have faith that we can get through this.
What to Say
Treating suicidal thoughts is like having a medical problem. For example if you’ve got mild asthma symptoms, you’d just treat yourself. BUT if it’s a life threatening attack, you’d ask the experts for help. Then you can go back to living your life once we’ve sorted the crisis.
What to Say
I care about you and I would be so devastated if you weren’t here anymore
What to Say
Depression and despair make your brain tell you wrong thoughts, like it will never get better, there is no way out. Believe me there is.
What to Say
People who get better say they can’t believe the thoughts they were having now that they are well
What to Say
When you want to give up, tell yourself you will hold off for just one more day, hour, minute—whatever you can handle
What to Say
You may not believe it now, but the way you’re feeling will change
What to Say
With help, your brain will stop telling you all this negative horrible stuff. You won’t have these thoughts when you’re well. Hang in there.
What to Say
Your brain is telling you things no one else will understand, it is saying negative wrong stuff. This can be corrected.
What to Say
That’s what depression is, everything is negative! But please remember back when things were not this bad, when it all wasn’t so dark. It will get better again.
What to Say
I know you think no one has ever experienced this pain and that no one can help but you WILL get better.
What to Say
I won’t ever get over it, and neither will anyone else that you care for, if you take your own life.
What to Say
What you are thinking is wrong. People who get better say they can’t believe the thoughts they were having when they were unwell

Getting Help
Have you talked to anyone outside me about this? It would be really good if you could speak to your GP.
Getting Help
Lots of people get suicidal thoughts when at a really low point. It doesn’t mean you’ll act on it. We do need to get you some help
Getting Help
I understand if you don’t want to talk to me about this. I can find someone that you can talk to who will help you.
Getting Help
This feeling will only get worse if left untreated. Can we ask your GP or a mental health service? I can help if it is too hard?
Getting Help
Can I help by getting in touch with your GP and/or mental health professional? I can set up an appointment for you?
Getting Help
Will you promise me that you won’t harm yourself or do anything like act on those awful thoughts? Please.
Getting Help
You can get through tonight, but if you feel you can’t, please let me know. I will call you.
Getting Help
This awful pain will stop. We need to talk so I can help you get help.
Getting Help
Doctors tell me this is something they can help fix. No matter how bad.
Getting Help
Mate ; I’ll never get over you not being here. Please talk.
- Suggest Supportive Text Messages
- Suggest Supportive Text Messages
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